Introduce Yourself: Hey, I’m Rebeka but everyone just goes with ‘Beka’. I’m seventeen and from an Eastern European country called Latvia but I’ve lived in Ireland pretty much my whole life.
Thoughts On People In The World?: I personally think there’s both good and bad people but it’s more important to focus on the good. It can be hard to ignore those that bring others down intentionally and want to hurt others but honestly, it’s better and healthier, mentally, to not give the negative people the attention. It can sometimes be hard to believe this but there are people who have good intentions and who want to help people and make others happy. When you find those people, do not let them go.
What are your inspirations & goals?: I’ve wanted to be a therapist/psychologist since I was twelve. I’ve always loved talking to people and helping them. Recently someone I looked up to from South Korea committed suicide. It made me even more upset that he did seek help but the doctor blamed his depression on “his personality”. I learned Eastern Asia has some of the highest suicide rates in the world. Depression is a taboo subject there and some are ashamed of it. This changed my goal entirely to move to South Korea (I’ve already been studying Korean for almost a year, so this country seemed to be the better option for me) and become a therapist there and help people who really need someone to talk to without feeling judged and without feeling like their feelings don’t matter. They do. No matter who you are, what gender you identify as, what your sexuality is, what your goals are, your pas, anything. Your feelings are valid. You’re worth more than you think.
How would you impact the world?: I want to change myself. I don’t want to wait till I finish college and have moved to start helping people. I plan on becoming a more open and nicer person who can talk to people, help them or just be there to listen if anyone needs it. You don’t have to wait to achieve your dreams, you can start now. It’s so much easier to be a good person than people think and it definitely is easier to be a good person rather than someone who brings others down. As one person, I can’t change the world. I can, however, influence as many people as I can to just be nice and helpful to those who need it and hope that everyone influences each other.
Struggles In Life? : For as long as I can remember, I’ve never actually liked myself or accepted myself. I always feel like people are talking about me, right in front of me. Even though it’s obvious it’s not about me I have a huge fear that it still is. It sounds ridiculous but I don’t know why I feel like that. For three years I felt used by people I called my friends and when opening up about personal struggles I felt like a joke and as if I wasn’t taken seriously and it just made me want to hide, dissapear and never talk to anyone. I started isolating myself from people and I stopped being so open and nice because I feared that everyone was out to use and hurt me so I pushed people away any way I could. Those feelings still haven’t stopped and sometimes feel like they just get worse.
How do you feel about yourself? Any changes you would make? : Both physically and mentally I’ve always only seen my flaws. I’ve never been able to find anything I liked about myself except my eye colour. I spent a week off social media and focused on myself and I learned that there’s more I like about myself. I just felt like I wasn’t good enough because I didn’t look like people I thought were ‘pretty’. When I took time away from people and spent time with those who made me happy, confident and let me be myself I learned that I’m fine as I am. I don’t need to change my style, my weight, any features I was born with. Just by being myself I can not only find people who will like me for me, but also start to like myself and that’s what’s important. It sounds cliche but it’s true. When you learn to love yourself, you’ll be more confident in what you do. However, don’t let people say you have to “love yourself first before finding someone who’ll love you” because people will love you even when you still don’t.
What does love mean to you?: I don’t know how to describe ‘love’..when I thought I fell in Love it was when I liked one of my friends but their happiness was more important to me. I didn’t care how I felt as long as they were happy. I’m over those feelings and I realised it doesn’t have to be someone you like that you feel love towards. It can be a family member, friend maybe even a celebrity. As long as you care about someone enough that you’re willing to put them first, you want to take care of them when they’re unhappy or angry. If you’re able to spend time with someone and never even think about talking badly about them and choose to stand up for them. It doesn’t matter if you’re not able to follow through, just the fact that you want to do that. That, in my opinion, is love.