My name is Katie, I’m 29 and years ago I was a footballer, a musician and in university with one year left until I could become a fully accredited therapist. But I had an undiagnosed slipped disc pressing on my spinal root nerve and for the past 7 years I’ve been laid up and mostly housebound.
What inspires you everyday
Lately I’ve struggled to find inspiration. For a long time, it was hope that got me through each day and the pain. But now I’m struggling to find something to hold onto.
What is something you would change about people in the world
I’d want people to be loving and caring towards each other, as we should do. The same goes for animals. I’d want a more compassionate and caring world for all, where all genders, sex, races and religions were all seen as equal and treated as such.
I think I’d also teach people to be kinder to themselves. We are all so hard on ourselves; the way we look, our skin, our weight. We spend too much time idolising an unrealistic body type, or lifestyle and then we hate ourselves if we don’t live up to it. It’s just ridiculous. The point in life is to experience it and find something and someone that makes you happy. Just do you and don’t compare yourself to anyone else. It’s you that matters.
What is your view on the people in the world
I choose to believe people are mostly good.
I also feel we judge ourselves too harshly. As women, especially. We try to have it all; kids, a career, a perfect family life and it isn’t realistic. But even so we feel like massive failures if we can’t do it all. We all need to learn to be kinder to ourselves. Stop comparing ourselves to others. We are all unique, we all have our own light that shines brightly from within.
We should all focus more on showing people our own unique light, the part of us that makes us who we are, and not try to copy or follow anyone else.
What is something you’ve struggled with in life
I’ve been laid up and mostly bed bound for 7 years now. I’ve struggled with that, with losing almost the entirety of my twenties to a misdiagnosis. Then a decade long relationship fell apart because of the strain the situation put upon us. I struggled greatly with being so alone. I had friends before but I was laid up so much I couldn’t go out with them and eventually they moved on with their lives, like most people do and now I see no one.
I struggle with feeling this alone. I hate it.
What is a positive message you would give others
From a poem by Avid:
“Perfer et obdura; dolor hic tibi proderit olim.”
“Be patient and tough; some day this pain will be useful to you.”
Last question if you could make a difference in the world how would you do that
Many people probably answer with ending famine and fighting for world peace. It’s incredibly hard to choose just one thing.
I’d fight for everyone to have equal value. A person’s looks, weight, disabilities, race, gender, religion, sexual orientation; all of these things in today’s world affect how other people see us and value us. I’d like to live in a world where everyone is equal, regardless of any of these issues. To value each other fairly & equally. No hate towards any groups/minorities
For a persons value to be judged solely on their heart and how they treat others & try to make the world a better place.
To place more value on people for being thin or “beautiful” by today’s standards is insane.
People who do charitable acts daily & go unheard,unsung everyday heroes, a person with a heart of gold, these are the traits that carry more value.
Be kind to one another. We are all in life’s journey together. The best thing any of us can do is help each other through it.